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- Douglas & Stephanie Hackney
- www.hackneys.com/travel
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- 43 Countries
- Travel by foot, auto, motorcycle, overland expedition vehicle, train,
bus, plane
- Full-time, overland living from 6/2007 to present
- Lessons learned from our experiences and other overlanders
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- Discuss your limits
- Respect the limits
- Safety and security are always trump
- You will worry about this the most and need it the least
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- The ultimate trump card
- Can be challenging
- No quibble, no discussion, no debate
- No proxy vehicle for unresolved relationship issues
- Even the slightest little tingle
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- Talk through scenarios
- Separation
- Ditch bag / bug out
- Medical stabilize to extraction
- Daily life: markets, ATM, etc.
- Practice scenarios
- Satellite phone, EPIRB, etc.
- Know your gear
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- Health issues for one affect both
- Proximity to healthcare resources
- Ability to participate in activities, eat “local” foods, etc.
- Be realistic about health impacts on proposed destinations / methods /
timelines
- Be honest about and aware of the stress health issues place on each of
you and your relationship
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- Highly recommended!
- Travel is very conducive to children’s self-confidence, self-esteem,
independence, capability, leadership, language skills, etc.
- All the logistics are possible (education, health, etc.)
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- Travel
- Start small, local, short term
- Test methods: group, friends, solo
- Test destinations: rural, remote, urban
- Test lifestyle: everyday activities, space utilization
- Platform / method
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- New pharmaceutical cost $500m-$1b
- Sailing costs …lots
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- Prior to departure
- Establish and agree on concept
- Define and agree on criteria
- Define and agree on method(s)
- If the bell rings
- No debate
- No questions
- No regrets
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- Travel can be stressful
- Travel can be rewarding
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- Her
- Children
- Emotional Isolation (Friends/ Family)
- Loss Of The Nest
- Personal Safety & Security
- Female Health
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- Communication
- Empathy
- Understanding
- Support
- Validation
- Loyalty
- Respect
- Physical Activity
- Conjugal Relations
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- Know your styles
- Know the basics
- Workshops / seminars / retreats / books / videos
- You will need this skill – while under stress
- Be specific when speaking
- Try to improve every day
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- Mutual understandings
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- Mutual definitions
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- Mutual Expectations
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- Shelter – “We’ll find a place.”
- Him: Wild/dry camp – 70% of the time
- Her: Hotel to hotel – 70% of the time
- Route – “We’ll find a way.”
- Him: Go Where No Overland Expedition Vehicle Has Gone Before
- Her: No roll angle greater than 3 degrees
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- Get the issues out and on the table before you depart
- Keep the issues on the table while underway
- Be honest with yourself and your partner
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- Be Honest
- Be Fair
- Be Open
- Communicate
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- Determine individual strengths / weaknesses
- Discuss prior to departure
- Test roles during lifestyle trial
- Revisit regularly
- Be adaptable and flexible
- Respect each other’s roles
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- Unique needs for each individual
- Shared needs
- Compromise needs
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- Establish couple priorities
- Establish individual priorities
- Rack ‘n stack within available resources (time, money, health, etc.)
- Maintain flexibility
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- Individual styles of travel
- Slow down - you move too fast
- Go, See, Do
- Checklist / Goal
- Shared styles of travel
- Compromise styles of travel
- New / evolved styles of travel
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- Expectations
- Goals
- Time
- Destinations
- Mode of Travel
- Priorities
- Commitments
- And that’s just the beginning…
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- Yourself
- As a Couple
- Your Journey
- Your Methods
- Your Platform
- Your Goals
- Your Rewards
- Your Preconceptions
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- Special challenge for both parties
- All Roles are often assumed and/or required
- Friend
- Confidant
- Peer
- Lover
- Booster
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- Personal Space
- Personal Quiet
- Personal Time
- Personal Interests
- Personal Communications
- Personal Rewards
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- Very important to discuss and understand your perceptions of these
concepts
- Tourism is not travel
- Travel is not Overland Living
- Traveling through an area is not the same as living in an area for a
time
- Full time overlanding is full time living
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- Gender-dominated and / or defined societies
- Acceptance of other societies’ ideals / standards / requirements
- Gender-specific behavior
- Gender-specific requirements
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- Why are we doing this?
- Revisit this question regularly
- Start at 40,000 feet and work down from there
- Don’t be afraid of changing the answer
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- The ship will come ashore
- When it does, you will both be different people
- When it does, everyone else will be different too
- The world keeps on turning
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- Learn from others
- Take time off
- Celebrate
- Rituals
- Be Here Now
- Be nice to each other
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- Establish and pursue common goals
- Take responsibility
- Maintain honesty and integrity
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- Details on the lessons in this presentation and more are available at:
- www.hackneys.com/travel
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- Douglas & Stephanie Hackney
- www.hackneys.com/travel
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